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Few weeks ago, I was called to see a patient. Without delay I rushed down the stairs and headed to the hospital wards. The man was sitting in the back seat of a car that brought him. I watched him closely but there was no respiratory efforts, I went for the pulse, not palpable, no cardiac activity, pupils were dilated, fixed and unreactive to light. I watched foam rush through the mouth and nostrils. Obviously he is dead. Still panting from the unplanned exercise I did, I felt bad that I couldn’t do anything for him.

Out of curiosity, I wanted to know how he got to that point. The wife, a young lady in her late 30s told me they were playing when suddenly he became distressed, struggling for air and she tried to calm him all to no avail, then she raised alarm for help. I quickly asked if her husband was hypertensive and she admitted. I requested for his drugs, luckily they came with his drugs. I went through the drugs, and was able to identify some and it included: digoxin, Viagra, lisinopril.

In my little mind I concluded the young man in his late 40s “DIED IN ACTIVE SERVICE TO THE WIFE”
from heart attack. My assumption may be right or wrong, but seeing those 2 drugs, I won’t be blamed for my assumption. Rest in peace to the dead.

Have you imagined why men die more? Have you ever noticed that there are more widows than widowers? Just check in your little village, then extend it to your community and you will be surprised what you find. I just want to pick one of the reasons I feel contributes to this. I will appeal that this is solely my opinion, it may be wrong or right.


In the other room

Every responsible man wants to satisfy his family and wife in terms of providing for their basic needs and also satisfying his wife in bed. But doing this at the expense of the man’s life is what I want to condemn.
It is a common experience these days that women openly talk about how bad their spouses are in bed, and most times the woman makes life difficult for the man by throwing abusive words at him.

It is also common to see a lot of products being openly advertised and marketed for enhancement of males sexual performance.
A lot of women are responsible for their husband’s death because of their excessive demands for sexual satisfaction, and in the bid to satisfy the woman the man take drugs that endanger his health, and their lives are cut short.

If I may ask, Is sexual satisfaction the basis of relationships or marriage?

Some times some women even asks for bigger penis and my fellow man will be taking the risk to drink all sorts of drugs just to enlarge his penis to satisfy the woman. Is this not just mocking God who created you?
At the end you may die SATISFYING A WOMAN.
Why not ask the woman to reduce her vagina to size you up instead?
It is important to note that a man’s sexual performance depends on a lot of factors, such as stress, diet, medical conditions such as diabetes, and drugs such as antihypertensives, as well as relationship problems.

How do you expect a man whom you nag, starve, embarrass in public, whom you refuse to support financially, who sleeps for less than 3 hours in a day, to satisfy you sexually?

Sometimes the woman may go behind the man. Most of the times the woman will threaten to go outside for the so called satisfaction and the man will be struggling to take higher doses of the drugs to satisfy her to prevent adultery from his marriage.

But you know what?

That woman you want to satisfy at the expense of your own life started having sex before the age of 12 years.
She has experienced several sexual activities before the age of 25yrs that she got married to you.
Before her marriage, she has experimented sex widely with many men of different expertise and energy capacities.
Unfortunately, she married you, a single man with single capacity, but she is already addicted to different sex experiences.

So how can you measure up, just one man, to satisfy her?

Don’t die in active service. Please your children, friends and parents will need you alive. Don’t die in the attempt to satisfy a woman sexually.

Just do what you can do and leave the rest to God. If you die satisfying a woman, immediately after your burial other men will come and continue from where you left off.

Our dear wives and girlfriends, we are begging you to help us live a little longer. If you don’t want to join the WIDOWS CLUB, please help us financially, appreciate what we are trying to do for you, encourage us to do more, stop the nagging, go the extra mile to feed us well, give us peace of mind, allow us sleep at night, let the house be the home so that we can feel happy coming home after our daily toil, understand our health challenges, understand the side effects of drugs we are taking, protect our weaknesses, don’t disgrace us to our children and your friends, and above all pray for us.

Then we will live longer for you and your children. Our performances then will also improve when you make us feel appreciated.

Men please do not harm yourself in any way by trying to prove that you are a man. Research has proved that ejaculating 2 -13 minutes is OK. If you can go higher without drugs better; but do not take drugs that will damage your heart.


In fact it is natural with several men to ejaculate fast during the first intercourse, so don’t take any drug for premature ejaculation, it’s not a disease to be treated. The 2nd and 3rd rounds usually take longer before ejaculation. Taking drugs to stay on a woman for longer time may kill you and leave the woman for another man. It may kill you prematurely. So be very careful. Many men have died trying to satisfy women.



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